Nairobi County Chief Officer for Citizen Engagement and Customer Service, Geoffrey Mosiria, has urged young men to rethink their priorities in relationships, stressing the importance of supporting parents before spending on costly gifts for girlfriends. His remarks came during a conversation with media personality Dr Ofweneke, where he discussed the pressures facing modern young men and the expectations placed on them in dating.
Why is Mosiria urging men to prioritise family over expensive gifts?
Mosiria highlighted how many young men in Nairobi are overwhelmed by financial demands from partners while their own parents back home receive minimal or no support. He said the boy child often struggles to make ends meet despite being pressured to send substantial amounts of money. “Boy child anapitia mashida hii town, anapigiwa simu ‘beb nitumie Ksh50k’, aki imagine hata huko nyumbani mzazi aliyekulea humtumiangi ata hiyo Ksh 50k,” Mosiria said.
He stressed that genuine love for parents should guide spending choices, especially for men who are not yet married. He questioned the habit of buying luxury gadgets for girlfriends while parents live without basic comfort. “If you really love your parents na ukumbuke mahali wazazi wamekutoa uwezi waacha wazazi wateseke juu ya mapenzi na ni girlfriend , si ati ni mtu ameoa ati unamununulia iPhone 17 na mama yako anatumia katululu.”
Mosiria also addressed what he views as the commercialisation of modern romantic relationships. He said many young women now understand the financial hustle men go through, which has increased pressure on men in dating. “Mapenzi imekuwa commercialised, na madem wakajua ile hustle umepitia kutafuta pesa na umepeleka out,” he said.
He encouraged women to support their partners instead of prioritising money. “Madem wache ni wa advise please wacheni kufwata pesa ukipenda boychild kama hana kitu na umencourage mtagrow pamoja,” Mosiria urged.
What did Mosiria say about cheating, marriage and polygamy?
Mosiria went further to discuss cheating and rising STI risks among young people. He argued that one way to reduce infidelity is by allowing men to marry more wives. He said that legalising polygamy would make men less likely to cheat because they would be able to formally marry additional partners instead of pursuing extramarital relationships.
He added that more young women are single, which pushes some into relationships with men who are already committed because of financial needs. According to him, this dynamic contributes to wider social problems. “The rate at which our girls wamekuwa wengi, I proposed kama polygamy inaweza kuwa legalised so that instead ya wanamume kuenda kucheat ni heri aoe. The government have to legalise this so that hawa wababa kama wanataka kuchukuwa wasichana basi wawaoe tu.”
Mosiria concluded by calling for policies that address relationship pressures, economic realities and public health concerns. “Kwa sababu the rate at which magonjwa yana samba juu ya madem kukosa mabwana na kufwata wenye wako na hela iko juu sana inafaa iangaliwe.”
By Lucky Anyanje